Personal 01 Feb 2006 10:39 pm
On past relationships
I'm avoiding writing an essay for about five minutes to share something that I find somewhat rare in the world of dating and relationships, particularly with "exes."
I've had two significant relationships thus far in my life. And I can unequivocally say without hesitation that I would do almost anything for either one of these two people. Anything, short of, perhaps, committing murder. Honestly, if I got a phone call in the middle of the night and one of them needed me, I'd be in my car within the hour. No matter the circumstances. I don't know that they'd do that for me, but that doesn't matter to me, for some reason.
Both of these people have significant others at this point in time. But that doesn't matter to me; I care about them that much. I don't know that that will ever change. I haven't been with one of them in four years, so these feelings have lasted at least that long, and through some significant life changes (for me).
This feeling seems a far cry from people who "break up" and then end up hating one another. I don't understand that. Unless that person has done something horrible to you or treated you like shit, I see no reason for alienation and animosity. I don't understand how you can go from truly loving someone to apathy or even hatred like that.
